(Übersetzt ins Deutsche unter Blog-D)
It is not very surprising that we seek a slower life with more time, because it feels that life is getting faster by the day.
The sudden approach to find an unrushed way to exist in our western world is just like stopping with your car. If you have been racing on the Autobahn your braking distance will be greater than if you were leisurely driving down the street. So do not be surprised that it may take some time to slow down. It is wonderful to have the Autobahn when you need it, but it is equally important to have the nature trail with a bench to stop and breathe. My job is to help clients put the brakes on without sliding into a ditch and finding a speed that allows them to see clearly out of the window.
Of course, we have to do many things in order to keep the wheel turning. At the same time there are elements we can eliminate that add stress and implement simplifications to make more time.
I know that many of you might get tired of my three pillars that I base my work and life on, but they are essential!
Here they come again:
Enough sleep, good food and daily exercise. What does that have to do with organizing your life? Everything! Try to do without it and you wont see lasting change!
So, if you would like to simplify your life, try starting with “just” that and be realistic on how long your braking way will be. Just like stopping in your car at high speed, the first meters will be the hardest.
Ask yourself what causes the most stress in your routine? We are all unique and each of us have different anxiety levels. For many it builds up throughout the day and in the evening we are exhausted. Preparing for the next day and getting a good night sleep are therefor so important, because it sets you up for a good start. I am a mother and never underestimate the work and stress that is involved in getting children ready in the morning- but having a consistent routine helps and gives the kids security. A good breakfast in the morning, cleaning up the kitchen and making your bed before you leave the house, makes it nicer to come home to at night. In the middle of your day, take a break. Keep your work space nice and prepared for the next work day before you leave.
For many the work place is where they spend max time and it is often the greatest cause for stress. Since it is a must for most to make money,
people often have to take a lot of crap and comply, because they can’t afford to loose their job. If this is your case, steer in the right direction to change it and find an environment you want to work in. It may help to know that you are not alone with this problem, many feel the same way.
Being organized and having simplified down to what is loved and needed will have a tremendous impact in your success of finding more time. I believe that we are longing more than ever to have more simplicity in our daily activities. For many it has gotten to fast paced and there is very little time left in the day. It is important to make space again for fun and rest.
So, how do you unravel? It is simple, just get rid of clutter, room by room, organizing drawers, cabinets and closets. Start giving things away or sell what you have not used in the past year. Stop adding and begin managing your time with a weekly schedule for things like cleaning, laundry, groceries, appointments and paperwork. Turn off your notifications on your phone, stay away from social media and say “NO” to things that don’t serve you. Stop using electronics to check in or relax; alternately do nothing. When you turn on the TV do not watch commercials, instead pick a good movie without any advertisement. Find balance between consume and nature. Take a look at some helpful TOOLS on my website.
Often people don’t ask for help. It seems to me, that especially women think they have to do it all.
If you have a partner, start with sharing responsibilities.
If you have children, give them chores.
If you are multitasking, start single-tasking.
If it is financially possible, hire a cleaning service.
If you have a garden that is too much work, make it self sustainable.
If you have pets, make sure you have time for them.
Be honest with yourself when it comes to making space. Again, you can say NO to things that add too much to your load, no reason to take it all on.
Another question to answer yourself is how much of the day, as a percentage, do you spend distracted, lost in thought? I am asking this to emphasize on the importance to give your busy brain a break, because a cluttered life and mind go hand in hand! Not sure how to do this? This may sound weird, but simply learn to be mindful, slow down, take breaks and get enough sleep. There are different ways to acquire the skill of slowing down and mindfulness and you should find a way that works for you. If you are searching for some ideas you might want to look at Headspace and give it a try!
Last, do not diminish the significance of single-tasking. It is the practice of dedicating oneself to a given task and minimizing potential interruptions until the task is completed or a significant period of time has elapsed. Basically, you are learning to be aware and mindful, which declutters not just the moment itself, but also the task and thoughts. If most of us would just focus on one quest at a time and finish, before starting a new one, we would feel less overwhelmed on our journeys.